This subject has been festering in my heart like a splinter on the bottom of my foot. Every time I move or allow my thoughts to wander, I think about what has been done in New York. And now we have Virginia contemplating allowing abortion all the way through 40 weeks. That is medically a full term baby. We are no longer considering just killing fetuses unable to live outside of their mother’s womb, we are considering allowing or assisting full term babies to die. If I am heart broken over this, I cannot even to begin to imagine how God views this state of inhumanity. There is an infertile couple somewhere who would adopt that baby. In fact, there would likely be a line out the hospital door waiting for such a chance.
Have I ever been in the position of considering an abortion? Yes I have. As a newly divorced single woman I was not always as careful as I should have been and I found myself wondering if I were pregnant. I worked for a group of pediatricians at the time and all I could think was that I would loose my job because I didn’t set a good example. In hindsight I see the fallacy of this thought process, but panic was setting in.
How was I going to afford to do this? Could I do it? What were my choices? What about the man. It was not a real relationship, just someone I went out with once or twice. There’s no doubt he would not want to be saddled with me and a baby.
It was a very long two to three weeks. And then I knew I wasn’t pregnant. But in those agonizing days I vacillated about the decision. Finally, I accepted that if indeed I was pregnant I would go through with the pregnancy. I was twenty eight years old, employed and self sufficient. This child would have been a blessing to me and I was responsible for its creation. I was scared. I was excited. Then I was terrified. But in the end I knew that I could not get rid of something as sacred as a new life.
I have told no one this story until now. There was no need, it was private. But it doesn’t need to be private any longer. It can’t be. If those of us who made other choices, no matter the outcome, don’t speak up all the world will hear is the noise coming from people who believe differently.
Because of my experience, I have always said that I believe a woman has the right to choose abortion. The act itself as well as the emotional, physical and spiritual consequences were between her and God. God created us with free will. He allows us to make choices but unlike modern society does not necessarily insulate us from the natural consequences of our actions.
In my mind, three months is plenty of time to make the decision. What is growing is an embryo. According to the website Medline.gov this is a partial list of what is happening to the embryo during the first three months:
- Cells divide and develop specific functions
- Brain, spinal cord and heart develop
- Arm and leg buds form
- Lungs form
- By 9 weeks all essential organs have begun to grow
- The heart grows and beats in a regular rhythm
- Outer ears take shape and facial features become more distinct
- By the end of 10 weeks, the embryo is now a fetus.
I dont’ know about you, but to me that is a human being. Within the next 2 weeks this fetus will also be able to hear. Nerves are in place – rudimentary, but in place.
Thanks to ultrasound and other noninvasive tools, parents can now see their baby at this stage of development. Heart beats and all.
What Separates Us From Animals
These days it seems like there isn’t much separation. The behavior of grown adults is shameful and often frightening. God gave us something very special. He gave us a soul. A living spiritual connection to Him that lives inside every human being. I have often wondered, when does the spirit enter? Is it at conception? Does the spirit of the divine live in that mass of quickly dividing cells? I have heard that some believe the spirit of God doesn’t enter the body until the first breath is drawn much like God breathed life into Adam. I have no answers. I would look with suspicion on anyone who claimed to have the definitive answer. I think that is one of the mysteries we won’t be allowed to know on this side of heaven. Just something to ponder.
Side Taking, Fence Sitting & Name Calling
Two cases were upheld by the Supreme Court on the same day that forever changed the lives of millions of women and babies. From a Wikipedia article:
Harry Blackmun wrote the Court’s opinion.
The Court issued its decision on January 22, 1973, with a 7-to-2 majority vote in favor of Roe. Justices Burger, Douglas, and Stewart filed concurring opinions, and Justice White filed a dissenting opinion in which Justice Rehnquist joined. Burger’s, Douglas’s, and White’s opinions were issued along with the Court’s opinion in Doe v. Bolton (announced on the same day as Roe v. Wade). The Court deemed abortion a fundamental right under the United States Constitution, thereby subjecting all laws attempting to restrict it to the standard of strict scrutiny.
Don’t Buy The Lies
If for some reason you are reading this, are pregnant and scared, please know you have a choice. You can choose life for you and your baby. If you are not able to raise it there are so many agencies who will provide help and guidance for you during the pregnancy and assist you in finding a family to raise your child.
I haven’t solved any issues here today. But I have expressed my opinion and hopefully provided an alternative point of view. I believe that God is in control of everything. He allows. He intervenes. He creates. He loves. In a perfect world mankind would never destroy what God created. But we don’t live in a perfect world. All we can do is our very best each and every day to walk humbly with God and treat each other with love and kindness. So much of the rest will take care of itself.